Feeding: My role and my baby’s role
“Should I get her to eat more?” A definite NO is the answer to this question.
We’re born with a very clear idea of how much to eat, so parents have to trust their babies and not interfere with their feeding role.
My Babies feeding roles are:
- Deciding WHETHER or not to eat
- Deciding HOW MUCH to eat.
Infants can’t talk at this age, but they will give you very clear signs when they are hungry or full. Your bubs role of deciding whether to eat and how much to eat is the same for when they become a toddler and will continue right through into their teenage years.
My (parents) feeding role is changing over this period
Before babies start solid food they are in charge of WHEN they’re fed. When baby starts solid food they are moving (with your help) to having structured meals and eating family food. WHEN and WHERE babies eat starts becoming up to you. You are always in charge of WHAT bubs are fed, either breast or formula milk and then which solids babies are served.
Why these feeding roles are important
Making sure we are looking after our own feeding role is possibly the most important thing we can do to ensure our babies grow up:
- eating the right amount of food
- eating a variety of healthy food
- having a good relationship with food.
What happens when you try to control how much they eat?
Parents who try to control the amount their children have more:
- Problems with fussy eating as infants move into the toddler age.
- Much greater stress at meals (for you and them).
- Children who lose the ability to stop eating when they are satisfied.
- Children more likely to be overweight.
- Children who eat less variety of food.
- Children who eat a less nutritious diet.
If allowed to own their eating, they’ll grow to love a variety of foods. If an infant starts choosing what they eat, there will be less variety and you’ll be feeding them more unhealthy foods. Bub is still and always will be, responsible for how much and whether to eat the foods offered by the parent.
What to do
- When feeding baby hold the spoon a near the front of their mouth and let the decision to come forward and eat be theirs
- Don’t play games to try and get them to eat, they will eat if they need the food
- Don’t dump the food on the tongue
- Don’t scrape the food off the gums or lips
- Don’t follow them with the spoon when they are trying to avoid it
- Don’t prompt to eat or show disapproval when they don’t
- Read the signs that they have had enough
- After serving up the food don’t prompt or show disapproval
- Stop the feeding of the meal when you can tell they are done eating.
Keep calm! If they don’t eat and you feel they should, then be comforted by the knowledge that they are not eating because they don’t want to or need to.
Trust their tummies, they know how much to eat, they know it much better than you!